When to Send Your Wedding Invitations, Save the Dates, and Everything Else!

Save the dates, invitations, thank you cards, oh my! At first, all the stationery involved with wedding planning can be overwhelming – but don’t worry, we’re here to help. Here’s our recommended guide for when to send all the gorgeous mail for your wedding.


Save the Dates

Save the dates are a fun way for your guests to mark your wedding on their calendar and are typically sent out 4-6 months before the wedding. For destination weddings you may want to send your save the dates our earlier, about 6-12 months in advance, to give your guests ample time to plan their travel arrangements.


Wedding invitation suites usually include the main invitation, a response card, and any other enclosure with helpful information for your guests – such as reception location, travel and accommodations, attire, wedding website, etc. All of these details are helpful for planning and attending your big day and your guests will be excited to receive them!

Traditionally, wedding invitations are sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Whether your celebration be classic, whimsical, rustic, or modern, invitations are typically the first opportunity to share the look and feel of your wedding with your guests.

If you plan on sending additional invitations as you receive “no” RSVPs, move your original invitation mail date back an additional 2-3 weeks so that guests whose invitations are sent later still have time to reply. This will ensure your “B-list” guests don’t feel like they are receiving an invitation at the last minute.


Your RSVP date should be about 3-4 weeks from wedding date. This will give you enough time to finalize your seating and give your caterer a final head count. There are bound to be a few missing, so don’t be afraid to follow up with a text or phone call to those you haven’t heard back from in time. And although it may be hard to believe, sometimes reply cards come back to you without guest names or return addresses. To combat this, we recommend penciling a little number on the back of your RSVP cards or inside the envelopes that corresponds to your own numbered guest list. This makes the task of managing and tracking down RSVPs less stressful!

Bridal Shower

The bridal party is usually responsible for organizing and hosting the shower. Invitations should go out 6-8 weeks before the event. To keep things organized, RSVPs should go to one person, the maid of honor or mother of the bride, for example.

Rehearsal Dinner

Close family members and anyone participating in the wedding ceremony is typically invited to the rehearsal dinner. It usually takes place the night before the wedding and is a time for guests to meet each other, celebrate, and toast the couple. Invitations are sent 3-6 weeks in advance of the dinner. Some couples opt to include the rehearsal dinner information on an insert to be sent as part of the main invitation suite for those guests who are invited.

Thank You Cards

Wedding gifts will likely come during different times of your wedding planning and celebrations. For gifts received during the engagement party and shower, send a thank you within 3-4 weeks of the events. For gifts sent before the wedding a date, send a card as soon as possible, ideally before the wedding date. For all other gifts given at the wedding or shortly after, mail a thank you note with in 3-6 months.

At a Glance

Save the Dates: mail 4-6 months before wedding (6-12 months for destination wedding)
Invitation Suite: mail 6-8 weeks before wedding
RSVPs: due back 3-4 weeks before wedding
Bridal Shower:
mail 6-8 weeks before shower
Rehearsal Dinner:
mail 3-6 weeks before dinner
Thank You Cards:
mail 3-6 months after wedding (3-4 weeks after other events)

We hope these timelines give you a helpful guideline for when to send out all of your beautiful wedding snail mail. Don’t forget, each event is different, so your timelines can vary. Use these timelines as a reference and adjust to suit the needs of your wedding. And don’t forget to add in time to actually have your stationery made! We recommend reaching out to us at least six weeks before your mail dates so there’s ample time to nail your vision and perfect your stationery.

All designs shown here were created by We’re Into It. All photography is our own except where credit is given.

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More About Our Story: We’re Into It in Boston Voyager

We were recently featured in a Boston Voyager interview where we had the opportunity to tell a little more about our story. We love that Boston Voyager features inspiring creatives, up and coming businesses, freelancers, and people hustling to do what they love. Their mission is to help grow and nurture local businesses in Boston by telling their stories, and we couldn’t love them more for that!

It was so fun for us to be able to dive a little deeper into how we got to where are today. You can read the article on bostonvoyager.com, but we’ve also copied it below. We’d love to hear what you think!

Amelia and Natasha, please share your story with us.
We met in a typography class while both studying graphic design at Northeastern University. We immediately bonded over our love for letters and need for caffeine breaks during class. What began as regular homework sessions together turned into continued creative collaboration once we graduated. We spent countless nights together drinking wine and just creating — paper crafts, letter art, holiday decor, you name it, For us, entering the 9-5 working world turned our nights and weekends into a precious time to work on projects that weren’t requested by our bosses or art directed by our teams. And by creating side by side, we had constant encouragement, support, motivation, and critique.

It was during this time that we both decided to strengthen our skills in hand lettering. We challenged each other to try new tools and techniques and honed in on the work we wanted to create. Empowered by the support of our friends (who had watched our crazy projects come to life while hanging out with us) and our love of working with each other, we decided to launch an Etsy shop in late 2015. It started off with just a handful of cards and prints, and we weren’t sure what would come of this new little business. As time went on, we continued to add more and more work to our shop and became more passionate about growing We’re Into It and focusing energy on the work we were creating together.

We now teach brush lettering courses throughout the Boston area (and hopefully soon to beyond!). We have a collection of hand lettered greeting cards, prints, totes, and other goods that we sell at markets, in local shops, and on Etsy. We work with clients to create full custom wedding invitation suites and day-of decor. We are still constantly learning, growing, creating, and loving every minute of it!

We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc. – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
As many designers can relate to, we often find ourselves to be our own harshest critic. From sketching to inking, and then finalizing a pixel perfect design, we often find it difficult to be truly satisfied with a piece of work. Having a trusted partner to bounce ideas off of makes the process much more enjoyable and results in a stronger end product. We rely on each other to motivate, encourage, and move things along when we individually hit a creative block (or even when life gets in the way).

For those without a dedicated business partner, don’t be afraid to reach out and seek help from your best friends, parents or the people whose ideas you admire. We’ve found that people generally want to help when they can, and finding that dedicated person or group to encourage you along the way can make all the difference.

Since we launched our Etsy shop, our business has steadily grown, but at times that pace of growth has felt too slow. We know we’re being harsh on ourselves, but it’s difficult not to when social media allows us to see what everyone else is doing and at what rate. We hear about businesses that “became famous overnight” for some project they did or for something they were featured in. When you see it all the time, it’s easy to expect that it will happen to you, and disappointing when your path is longer and more arduous. Of course, we love Instagram as a tool to share, promote, and find inspiration from, but sometimes the content and displayed success of others can feel overwhelming. We constantly remind each other that we don’t need to compare ourselves to everyone else and that it’s not a competition. We’re creating our own path and have already exceeded so many of our goals!

A better way to look at competition is to realize that we can learn something from them. For us, having female role models in our field gives us motivation, especially during times of frustration or when faced with roadblocks. A few designer lady bosses we look up to and admire include Jessica Hische, Lauren Hom, and Tina Ross Eisenberg. There is such a strong community of women who are pursuing their dreams, and no matter what obstacles we come to, we’re going to continue to pursue ours!

So let’s switch gears a bit and go into We’re Into It story. Tell us more about the business.
We sell a collection of hand lettered and designed prints, cards, totes, signs, you name it! We also work with clients to make custom designed pieces for events, weddings, and home decor. Our work is inspired by the things we’re into, whether that be wine and cheese, Beyoncé or just classic, beautiful lettering on its own. To put it simply: we love picking up a pen and creating work that makes people smile!

Our passions are wide-ranging when it comes to design and creativity, which means we have a large variety of work. People look to us for expertise in hand lettering, a discerning eye for all things design and as creative minds that can bring any vision to life. We pride ourselves on always trying new things to ensure that both our client and personal work doesn’t get stale. There’s no project too crazy or nebulous or large for us!

Do you have any advice for finding a mentor or networking in general? What has worked well for you?
Boston has such an awesome creative community! When we first started selling at local craft markets, our favorite part was simply spending the day surrounded by badass creatives hustling to sell the work they’re passionate about. We keep in touch with our “market friends” on social media and always look for opportunities in which we may be able to work together.

Find the environments where you feel like you can connect with people and become active in them. If they don’t seem to exist – make them! Our lettering workshops have been a great way for us to connect with creatives in the Boston area. We are so inspired by those who take our class, coming from all sorts of backgrounds, and love that we have a new network of letterers that we’ve helped to create. If networking-type events aren’t your jam, don’t feel forced to attend. In the end, finding what works for you and your business and nourishing the relationships you have are what’s important.

Welcome! We’re Amelia & Natasha and we’re into it

We love hand lettering and graphic design and we’re here to share some of our favorite things!

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Escort Cards versus Place Cards – What’s the Deal?

Although the terms escort cards and place cards are often used interchangeably, they are actually technically quite different. When planning an event or wedding reception, it’s helpful to understand the difference, so we’ve put together a quick synopsis of when to use each.

Escort Cards

Place Cards

What’s the difference?

Escort cards are used to assign guests to specific tables, but not to specific seats. These cards are usually displayed at the entrance to the reception area for guests to easily see and pick up themselves. They can be elegant folded tent cards, but escort cards are also a great place to get creative and match the theme of your wedding with unique materials.

Place cards are used to assign guests to a specific seat at a table, and can indicate formality — they are almost always part of a black-tie reception. They are placed at the guest tables before the reception is open and can be traditional tent cards, attached to favors, or tucked into a decorative little stand.

And don’t be afraid to think outside the box! Even folded tent cards can be unique by incorporating a variety of design elements, or even by utilizing meaningful places or objects in place of traditional table numbers.

When using place cards, it is helpful to have a seating chart on display in order to avoid guests wandering around tables looking for their specific seat. Sometimes seating charts are used on their own to display table assignments, but their purpose is the same as escort cards – for guests to easily and quickly find their assigned table.

Photography by Ali + Julie

Photography by Eve Event Photography

What do I need at my wedding?

Choosing to do escort cards, place cards, or both is entirely dependent on the size and formality of your wedding, and your individual preferences. Most wedding receptions have escort cards or seating charts, while place cards tend to be optional for less formal gatherings.

If you have a specific place you’d like your guests to sit, you might want to think about having place cards in addition to escort cards or a seating chart. However, if you’d just like to direct guests to a certain table and let them choose their seat from there, then escort cards are the way to go. For intimate weddings with only a table or two, escort cards can be unnecessary if guests can easily find their seat without confusion.

Although it’s not usually recommended, skipping both escort and place cards can work if you are having a truly informal wedding where seating is ample and scattered. Assignments help to avoid confusion and the problem of guests wandering around stressing to find a seat.

Photography by Lily Events

Photography by Ali + Julie

Do I have to use paper tent cards?

Not at all! Both escort cards and place cards are an opportunity to be creative with unique materials to match your wedding style or theme. Think sand dollars for a beachside bash, polished stones for a garden party or driftwood for a lakeside soiree. You can also choose something that can do double duty, and have an escort card that’s also a favor, like ornaments or mini succulent plants. Your guests are going to love something special with their name on it and will guarantee they’ll remember your big day!

We’d love to bring your escort cards and/or place cards to life! Contact us for a custom design, or order directly here.

Photography by Zac Wolf Photography

All designs shown here were created by We’re Into It. All photography is our own except where credit is given.

Welcome! We’re Amelia & Natasha and we’re into it

We love hand lettering and graphic design and we’re here to share some of our favorite things!

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100 Days of Things We’re Into

Have you heard of the 100 Day Project? It’s a free global art project that takes place on social media. We love that this project brings together a group of talented and diverse creatives and encourages them to create something every day for 100 days.

The official 2018 #The100DayProject started on April 3rd, but the date really isn’t important – the founding artist Elle Luna encourages participants to start any day they can. We participated from September–December in 2017. At the time, we felt like we needed an extra push to letter. It may seem silly because we run a lettering business, but sometimes the actual creating part gets lost in the minutiae of the day to day. When you run a small business, there are a million things to do that aren’t your craft, so for us, making a point to practice lettering every day was so amazing! Our first and last posts can be seen here:

Our unique hashtag was #100daysofthingswereinto, and we spent 100 consecutive days lettering things and people that we love. Like Tombow pens, Jessica Hische, and Instagram — the platform on which we shared the project. We chose this theme as a way for our followers to get to know us and our interests a little better, but also as a sentiment to what we thought our business would become when we started it together. When we settled on the name We’re Into It, our original intention was to launch a blog where we shared all the things we’re into. Once we got up and running, we were pulled in many different directions and the blog didn’t end up happening. (But yay, now we’ve finally launched our blog!)

We won’t lie: this project was a challenge! And since there’s two of us, we made it easier on ourselves and divided many of the posts instead of collaborating on each. (We’re so glad we had each other to rely on to complete this!) While simply lettering a word every day sounds like it’d be quick and simple, we also experimented with new lettering styles, took a lot of time planning props and photo sets, shooting each picture, and writing fun captions each day. We definitely pushed ourselves to ensure that each post was great, and for that reason it took quite a bit of time. All we can say is that in the end, the challenge is so rewarding!

You can check out all of our 100 posts below. We’d love to hear what you thought of our 100 day project, and if you’ve ever done one yourself!

Welcome! We’re Amelia & Natasha and we’re into it

We love hand lettering and graphic design and we’re here to share some of our favorite things!

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We have a blog!

Hello and welcome!

When we settled on the name We’re Into It, our original intention was to launch a blog where we shared all the things that we’re into. Instead, our focus shifted, and the things we were into began taking shape through fun projects and the lettering photos we shot on the go. After our success and growth over the last couple years, we’re finally ready and excited to get a blog going.

We’ll be posting about our work and process, as well as client features, wedding how-to’s, products we’re currently loving, and perhaps even some travel and dining adventures too. We’re looking forward to sharing what we’re into with you and excited to see how are blog will take shape and evolve.

Thanks for following along with us! We hope you’re into it 🙂

Amelia & Natasha

Welcome! We’re Amelia & Natasha and we’re into it

We love hand lettering and graphic design and we’re here to share some of our favorite things!

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